I do not believe in using "scripts. Scripts are generic. They do not take into consideration teh clients own exepriences, language , motivation etc. Whenever I use a piece of material I have already written, I am very careful to modify it so it perfectly suites the client.
What I actually do in hypnosis, as opposed to using scripts, is I create what I call "hypnotic argument". Through my interview with the client, I assess what the significant events are that have occurred in the person's life that are influencing them and causing the symptoms they have come to work on. I then identify the beliefs that they have developed as a result of those events. I then create the Hypnotic argument, a counter-argument to what they believe. This hypnotic argument is one they cannot resist or poke holes in.
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Below are some of the common hypnotic arguments I make to my clients.
Backhoe versus spoon - A script for quick change.often when clients come to see me they have tried many other forms of therapy or change. And yet, they are still saddled with their challenge. So, they think they are a "lost cause" or that they are difficult to help. All of those attempts at change have left them feeling somewhat skeptical about whether or not they CAN change. So, sometimes the first place I need to begin wth a client is in helping them to have faith that they are capable of getting the results they want. We know how important a person's beliefs are! If they think it will take a long time to make any change, then it will take a long time. And if they think they are incapable of changing, no change will occur.So, this script is one that I incorporate into pretty much every first session. It is not the ONLY thing I do in that first session. So, it is not meant to be the entire session. But, I use it to start the session once the client is in hypnosis so that they can begin to accept the idea that change can happen more quickly than past experience may have led them to believe.
The Singer in the Forest-- overcoming poor self esteem due to lack of acknowlegement. Self esteem is a huge theme for clients who come for hypnosis. So, this is something we will work on over and over. My typical approach is to find out, during the consultation, who the "big players" were in the client's past-- who had a role in diminishing self worth for the client?
I then find out what the client knew about that person (their upbringing, their life experiences etc) that may have accounted for why they were how they were. usually the client can recognize that this person had their own issues, was maybe abused or neglected themselves. However, knowing it on the conscious level doesn't change anything for the client. The low self worth persists. This is where this script comes in handy. so, this script is a great script for a client who has low self esteem due to not having received compliments, acknowledgment or due to having a critical parent or person in their past.it gets the client to consider that they can have outstanding qualities whether someone else recognized it or not.
Loving imperfection-- Perfectionism is a topic that comes up a lot with clients. They feel they need to do more, be more, accomplish more in order to be acceptable, loved or successful. Often my work with a client who describes him/herself as a perfectionist is to determine where that drive is coming from.Some possibilities:-Perhaps there was a critical or withdrawn parent and the client fe...lt they had to BE more in order to get positive feedback (or ANY feedback).Perhaps the client was praised or recognized for hard work so learned that working hard was a way to get acknowledgement. Perhaps the client felt life was chaotic or out of control and so , on some level believed if they could control things or make them perfect they could make life easier.
Perhaps perfectionism was modeled by a parent. I'm not suggesting that everyone's perfectionism stems from one of these things. But, they are something to listen for as you explore the cause for your client's perfectionism. Once I have determined where this tendency comes from, I will work on it specifically. In the meantime, a client who feels they must be perfect will typically have poor self esteem because they cannot meet their own high standards so, therefore, they see themselves as lacking.
So, here is a script that will help a client with impossibly high standards realize that they are still worthy and lovable even if they are not perfect.
I Spy- Change your conditioned beliefs-- I just spent the weekend teaching my Level 1 class (I love you ladies, by the way!) and a concept we kept returning to was "mental filtering". Mental filtering refers to the fact that we will only see the things out there in the world that are consistent with beliefs we hold and will dismiss any evidence that runs contrary to our beliefs.
For example, if a person hold a belief that people are mean and untrustworthy, if someone gives them a compliment they will either ignore it or they will question it. They will wonder: was that person being sarcastic? What did they REALLY mean by that? what do they want from me?The belief that people are mean and untrustworthy will make them unable to accept the compliment as sincere. Likewise, if someone believes that they lack intelligence and then they do well on an exam, they will think "The teacher felt sorry for me", "the exam wasn't that hard" or "That was a fluke". They will not credit their having done well on an exam to their intelligence--they will filter out evidence that they are perhaps smart and look for another explanation.I see this as well when a client who thinks they are a "hard case" starts getting results in hypnosis. They will say "maybe I'm just having an easy week" or "maybe it's because it's been sunny lately and I always feel better when he weather is nicer. " So, mental filtering is an important concept for a hypnotherapist to understand and to challenge when they see their client engaging in it.Theis script is one I use frequently to get my clients to see a broader perspective.