Some people dream about finally having time to relax. Then, when they do, they feel restless, guilty, or uncomfortable. After more than 25 years as a clinical hypnotherapist, I've noticed that if you can't relax, there is often a very good reason. The answer may not be a lack of self-care. It may be something your subconscious learned years ago.

Why do some people find it so difficult to say no, ask for what they need or put themselves first? After more than 25 years as a clinical hypnotherapist, I've noticed a pattern that appears again and again. People pleasing often isn't a personality trait. It's a strategy the subconscious learned to help keep someone safe.